Parents Who Host Lose the Most. Don't Be a Party to Teen Drinking

Prom and graduation are this weekend for Maine Township District 207 High School students. Parents and other adults can work together to make sure that alcohol is not accessible to teens. Help protect your children by following thise guidelines when hosting teen parties:

1. Refuse to supply alcohol to children or to allow anyone under 21 years old to drink in your home or on your property.
2. Be at home when your teen has a party.
3. Make sure other teen's don't bring alcohol into your home. Don't allow teens to bring their own water bottles or drinks.
4. Talk to other parents about not providing alcohol to youth.

All adults in the community can help each other keep all of our kids safe.

Park Ridge Memorial Day parade 2012

Thank you to our partners and volunteers for marching in the parade with us.

A father's perspective on teen drinking.

OK Parents, What’s Your Position on Teen Drinking?

Posted May 15, 2012 by jimhigley

The Chicago Tribune TribLocal asked me to put some thoughts together pertaining to teenage drug and alcohol use. It’s a tough subject to write about – I desperately want to get it “right.” But I don’t know all the right answers. So I’m going to go with what’s in my heart…
Teenage drug and alcohol use. Just writing those words brings me a sense of unrest. Maybe it’s because the more I learn, the more I realize how much I don’t know.
I’ve raised one child to legal age. I have one who is within months of being 21. And I still have one in the thick of the pressures of high school. I know all too well – from past experience with others in my family – how real alcohol use and abuse is. I’ve worked with and interviewed some of our country’s leading authorities on the subject.
And yet I still feel grossly limited in my knowledge. Perhaps that’s because I’ve come to understand there isn’t a silver bullet to all of this. And because this issue is wrapped around the lives of teens and their families, I find it excruciatingly important.
While I’d never profess to know everything, a few of the things I’ve learned along the journey of parenting include:

1. The conversation must start early. Starting this conversation in middle school is too late. I’d start real conversations in the early years of grade school.
2. Modeling healthy lifestyles starts with mom and dad. Like everything else, kids watch and see all of our actions. If you have a healthy lifestyle – as their parent – it is a step in the right direction. More importantly, if you don’t have a healthy lifestyle, your kids are at a disadvantage.
3. Kids will accept rules. Honestly. You must have house rules that everyone must follow when in your home. Kids want to be kids. Rules help them be kids.
4. “Everyone” isn’t doing it. Granted, you and your kids may be in the minority. As a parent, you have to recognize the pressure your child is under.
5. Drinking in the “safety of your home” is not safe. It sends mixed messages that are very confusing for kids.
6. Weed is not an acceptable alternative to alcohol. There’s a growing belief that weed is an acceptable substitute for alcohol. It isn’t. The acceptable alternative to drinking is living healthy and making healthy choices. That’s what I try to instill in my kids.
7. No tolerance is an acceptable family position. This is hard. Painfully hard. But study after study confirms that – in our country -this is the most effective position.
8. Parents who look the other way are doing their kids a disservice. There’s a trend for parents to start to relax (ignore) their kid’s actions when they become juniors. Parenting isn’t over at that point. Especially with this topic. Stick with it.
9. Kids who enter college with zero (or very limited) alcohol use do better. Some parents believe it’s better to “ease” their kids into drinking so they are better able to handle themselves in college. The truth is (and studies prove) that kids who enter college with no alcohol use (or very, very little) are far more likely to succeed. Those who enter college with moderate to high alcohol use are far more likely to struggle or drop out of college.
10. Did I mention the conversation must start early?

Is this the perfect list? Not a chance. But it’s what’s at the top of my head when the issue knocks on my door.
And what are a few specific things you need to do? Well, according to my friend and one of the country’s leading authorities on teen alcohol and drug use, Jeff Wolfsberg, here are four specific suggestions:

1. Take care of yourself. Really. You need to be healthy – physically and emotionally – to be the parent your child needs you to be.
2. Be physically awake when your kids come home. This is important. If your child knows you will be awake and talk to them, it will have in impact on their choices.
3. Show up and make telephone calls. Don’t be afraid to make an appearance if they are out at a public location. Additionally, call the parents of homes they are going to. Ask questions. Make sure you understand what kind of rules (or lack of) they are exposed to.
4. Be open. To everything. Never, never, never assume your child is not getting into problems. Every teen is vulnerable. Be aware. Be open.

So what things would you add to the list?

Maine Township teens report that alcohol is easy to get. The most frequently reported sources are: getting it from a friend, at a party or taking it from their parent's without their knowledge. Only about 2% of Maine Township students reported getting alcohol on the Internet. 

Minors can easily avoid age requirements when buying alcohol online, study suggests

MCYAF hosts annual Volunteer Appreciation Event

Thank you to all the MCYAF partners, volunteers and supporters who continue to work with us to reduce youth alcohol and drug use in Maine Township. Our annual Volunteer Appreciation Event was held on May 1st at the Des Plaines Park District Prairie Lakes.
Gene Haring from the Des Plaines Park District was recognized as Outstanding Partner of the Year. Gene is a member of the MCYAF Evaluation Sub-committee, assists by providing graphic design help and marketing expertise and helps us reach adults in the community with our messages.
We also recognized students from Maine West and South High Schools who have been part of a MCYAF Youth Advisory Board this year for being Leaders of Tomorrow. These students have been meeting monthly to provide feedback and ideas on how to reach adults with prevention messages as well as to brainstorm ideas about how to reduce youth alcohol and drug use in our community. Youth alcohol and drug use are issues that will require our entire community to work together to change. We appreciate everyone who supports efforts to help youth make healthy choices.

Talking to your kids can help them choose not to use alcohol or drugs.

The message is simple, but true. Parents can help reduce teen alcohol and drug use by talking with their kids. It’s best to talk before they start using and update the message as they get older, but it’s never too late to start talking.

Being afraid to talk or avoiding the topic because you think your child will take more of an interest in drugs or alcohol won’t prevent him/her from trying these substances. Research has shown that when parents clearly express that "It's not OK with me if you drink or smoke" and then explain why, kids are less likely to use drugs or alcohol.

In fact, Maine Township High School students who said their family has clear rules and their parents think it's wrong for them to drink alcohol or use drugs reported higher avoidance of alcohol and marijuana than students who report otherwise.

More parents in Maine Township are talking to their teens about NOT using alcohol. According to the Illinois Youth Survey from 2009 to 2010, more students reported that their parents had talked to them about not drinking. For the same time period, alcohol use was down 7.6 percent among high school age youth in Maine Township.

When parents talk, kids really do listen. If you don’t know what to say or how to say it, we can help. See www.mcyaf.com for helpful ideas.